Monday, October 10, 2011

reasons why

My professor had us watch a video clip of himself and another professor here at the university discussing homosexuality.  I actually found this video very interesting.

Many things pointed back to how one was treated by others, sometimes starting with simple differences in qualities or characteristics (sensitivity, creativity, etc.), that aren't considered 'manly'.  This may cause doubts in oneself and questions as to whether or not they are homosexual.

One thing mentioned that I really appreciated was about such men who contain such qualities - another person who contains similar qualities is Jesus Christ.  These are still great men who can do great things!  Just because they don't enjoy always destroying things, playing with trucks when they are children, going hunting, or whatever, does NOT mean that they are gay.

Another thing of importance that was noticed was that of the influence of a father.  Sons need the influence of their father.

And the last thing that I wanted to take note of and share was when my professor said that he had heard someone (a professional) state "For every...gay [male couple], there are 2 women who will never have the opportunity to be married and have children in this world."  This really made me pause and think, as he then said as well, about how much the Adversary is working against the family, and for me, especially against women (I am not saying that there is not work against men, but I'm a woman and therefore can take this stance a bit more firmly, so please just take it as it is).  I think of women; women are characteristically sensitive, kind, gentle, soft-spoken, etc.  Women have been entrusted with the ability to give birth to Heavenly Father's children.   When the opportunity to be married, or even simply date, does not present itself (whether because of lack of dating, continual 'bad timing', bad experiences, etc), I truly believe that the Adversary whisks on in and attacks a woman's mind; the Adversary slips in little thoughts such as, "I guess I'm not good enough, pretty enough, smart enough, funny enough..." and on and on.  Perhaps she starts to think that she is not desirable at all.  If she is not good enough in one way or another, and marriage in the temple is of most priority in this life to us as Latter-day Saints, than she must be doing something wrong, or be worthless, or not have the right qualities to attract a righteous man.  She can be trying all she can to be worthy of a righteous man and to be sealed in the House of the Lord, but when nothing comes, or when attempts to date fail, doubt is quick to arise in so many women.  I have had far too many friends of mine (female) call me up during stressful, low times of their life related to lack of dating.  The reasons expressed are always the same: not pretty enough, not smart enough, too talkative, not talkative enough...worthless compared to others.

What effort Satan puts into women feeling degraded, worthless, unimportant, not capable of doing great things, etc...all to stop effort on family.  Eternal family.  A family with numerous children of God with innumerable potential!!!  Women, and men alike, truly are daughters and sons of God.  A perfect being, which we have the potential to become like.  Don't let yourself give way to the easiness of the self-depreciating thoughts from the Adversary.  Remember that you are of great worth, male or female, and can do much.  Don't allow lack of dating cause you to think you are something you are not.  If you feel you have slipped that way, don't beat yourself up more - that is only what the Adversary would want.  Believe and know that you can become better and change through the help of the Atonement.

What a wonderful gift the Atonement is; to learn, to grow, to change.

I know that gender was and always has existed for eons and eons and will never change.

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